From the initial diagnosis, to treatment, and then to recession, prostate cancer influences the entire family. As a spouse or partner looking to support their mate, the goal is to be there in any way possible. Learning how you can achieve this and the role you should play is critical in this process.
Learn Everything You Can
Take this news as an opportunity to learn everything you can about prostate cancer, as well as the specifics of your mate's diagnosis. Your willingness to seek out this information can take much of the burden off your loved one and allow him to focus solely on his health, which is critical to the effectiveness of his treatment and recovery. It might even be a good idea to organize a binder to keep all this information in one place for easy accessibility.
Take on a 'We' Mindset
Try to take on a we mindset, opposed to it being about him only. Instead of thinking that he has a doctor's appointment today, think to yourself, "we have an appointment." This level of active participation can speak volumes to your loved one's spirit because it lets him know that regardless of the current battle ahead, he won't be left to fight it alone. Apply this idea in every area, including any necessary dietary changes or exercise requirements.
Control Your Emotions
It is healthy to express yourself. If you're happy, it's good to be outwardly happy, but sadness that is caused by your loved one's suffering isn't always best to display at every moment. If your loved one is stressed or anxious, your unloading of emotions may only increase their burden. Find a safe place where you can retreat to when necessary to express your raw emotions, then pull yourself together so that you can fully offer the support you need to.
Build a Support Network
Work to build a support system for yourself. During this type of situation, your complete focus will likely be on his health. Without even noticing it, your own health, both physical and psychological, can go haywire. Create a support system that gives you the aid of an extra hand around the house when you need or someone to simply vent to. Remember that you can only give your best when you're at your best.
While every situation is different, these tips can at the very least lay the foundation for your support goals. Most important is your presence and willingness to help.
